Dan Bacon, otherwise known as 'The Modern Man', ironically, has written an article about how to approach women when they're wearing headphones. There's nothing modern about being a chauvinistic sh*t who doesn't understand that women are 1) not obliged to talk to men 2) don't want to sleep with him 3) aren't objects.
His blog's homepage includes gems like this: "I'll show you quick and easy ways to instantly experience success with women", "how to make women feel intense attraction for you...even if you're not tall, rich or handsome", "the real reason why a lot of good men fail with women...and what to do instead" and "what to say to turn a woman on and maker her want to have sex with you ASAP. (this is very easy to do. You've got to try it)".
Where to start with this. He is the literal worst. He obviously knows zilch about women, thinks we're all the same and that we're super easy to manipulate. Oh and that we only want to date tall, rich or handsome men. Sorry, think I just vommed a little.
His article "How To Talk to a Woman Who is wearing Headphones" went viral this week, mostly because people were appalled/confused/scared for the future of the human race.
Dan has defended his article saying he thinks it's completely normal for a man and woman to talk. Well, yes Dan, it is. People do this crazy thing called conversing. However, conversation is a two way street, and a woman with headphones in does not want to talk to you.
Do you know how many women put their headphones in to avoid getting accosted in public? How a lot of the time we may not even be listening to music, but sadly know that some men don't respect the fact we don't want to be bothered, and therefore have to create a buffer of some sort. It's sad, but the truth.
Arguably the worst part of his article, is the tip not to "give up too easily". Someone hold be back, honestly, I can't even comprehend how predatory this is.
According to Dan "sometimes she won't immediately pull out her headphones and show interest. Why? Some women like to test to see how confident a guy is by ignoring his attempts to converse with her and then seeing what he does next". No Dan, I hate to break it to you that if a woman doesn't remove her headphones, it's simply because she doesn't want to talk to you. K? You got that?
If his article has made you think it's a good idea to approach women whilst they're wearing headphones, or if you already do it then please go home and evaluate your behaviour. If she does remove her headphones when you approach her it's probably to ensure that you're not trying to murder her right then and there. Capiche?
Since Dan Bacon obviously can't read social cues, let me break it down a little. Here are the times when you should never approach a woman.
1) When she has headphones in.
Pretty sure I cleared this up above, but let me reiterate. Unless said woman has caught on fire and not realised it, please don't disturb her. She wants to enjoy her commute in peace, and not be bothered. If you legitimately think she may be the love of your life, then write it on a f*cking piece of paper and hand it to her. Obviously don't say that, just put your number and "Sorry, didn't want to disturb you as I know how annoying that is but wanted to tell you that I think you're beautiful".
2) At the gym
We're working out. Please don't disturb us. Please never ever make a sleazy comment about our yoga pants or sports bra, we're not wearing them because you find it attractive, we're wearing them so our tits don't hurt when we run and to absorb sweat.
3) When she's quite clearly with her partner.
You'd be surprised at how often this happens. The amount of times you're in a bar with your other half, and while they nip to the loo, you get approached by a man asking "Is that your boyfriend". Well, yes, it clearly is, we're sat here with our puppy and are holding hands. They'll usually say something like "Oh I wasn't sure, because he's seriously punching". This is not a compliment. Ever. Please refrain.
4) When a woman is having fun with her friends.
Ok, there's a difference between smiling at a group of women and saying hi and barging in midway through their conversation and then not respecting their decision to decline drinks. Just take the hint.
I'm not saying don't ever approach women in public, obviously that is an a-okay thing to do, because how else would people meet (apart from on Tinder and other virtual ways). But just read the social signs.
If you give a woman a big smile, and she grins back. Then ok, maybe say hi. If she diverts her gaze, moves seats, turns her back or puts her headphones in- then sorry pal, she doesn't wanna talk to you.
Dan Bacon is a douche, and his headphones article is actually one of the less dangerous ones. Others include "Why Do Women Act Like Men?", "How To Have Your Choice Of Women" and "How To Make A Woman Want You Sexually". I really wish I was joking, but alas, these are all very real, very sexist, very stupid, very misleading articles.
Fellas, please don't take his advice. Actually, I'd probably advise doing the opposite of whatever he suggests.
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